Thoughts on cheating
November 22, 2009- Cheating is any form of action that makes one feel violated if done by one’s partner
- There is no grey area in cheating. It’s just black or white. Either you are cheating or not. There is no halfway.
- Cheaters rationalise their behaviours. They point the blame at their legitimate partners even if they know there is no one else to blame but themselves. They see fault in everything their partner does and sees it as a reason to fool around more. I forgot what it’s called in Psychology but it’s actually transferring the guilt to their partner.
- Cheating starts will small, harmless things. Things that are easy to overlook until one realises, albeit too late, that it’s harmless no more. And by little things I mean exchanging mushy SMSs, e-mails, YM messages, going out for a bite. The list goes on. “Harmless” things that are intentionally kept from the legitimate partner. I’ve read somewhere that it’s guilt that makes one want to label these encounters as ‘little’ when one knows where they inevitably go.
I might never understand why cheaters do what they do. Or why there are people who would actually consider being with a person who is already married or is committed. Aren’t there enough men/women in this planet that they would want to share with another one?
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